Part of what makes talent so successful in their modeling or acting careers is the fact that they can wear their emotions on their sleeves – readily available at a moment’s notice if needed. On set, this is an asset. In a talent’s daily life, however, it may not be.
When put in an emotionally charged situation, it’s difficult not to be ruled by our fears, hopes, dreams, and insecurities. If we’re going to be honest with ourselves, it isn’t only the talent who struggles with maintaining control of their emotional life. (Even corporate America finds it challenging to control emotions when feeling betrayed, criticized, or shamed.) Since “talent” is our blog’s common bond, however, let’s focus on some good techniques to have a successful career while maintaining composure in the real world.
You may find that venting is an effective form of organizing your thoughts and emotions. The hardest part can be getting to the safe place to vent, which we will look at in a later blog. If you can stay the emotions long enough to walk away from the situation, using “venting” as a coping mechanism allows you to release tension prior to approaching an issue. Venting can be done in many forms, including sharing with a trusted friend, writing in a diary, or using art forms such as dance.
If you are venting to a friend, be clear about your intentions from the beginning. Let your friend share your agenda by saying, “I am upset about ____ and hoped I could vent for 15 minutes about it.” Also be clear about whether or not you’d like feedback, suggestions, brutal honesty, or ideas. If you just want someone to listen, give your friend the advantage of knowing that’s what you need. By sharing the guidelines, your friend will know what their role is and be better able to fill your need. You will also be committing to not letting your emotional worries overrun your time together or corrode your friendship. When the time is up, move on to something else.
If you aren’t comfortable or don’t have someone to involve in your venting session, writing poetry, diary journal entries, or a letter to the person/entity with whom your emotions are heightened might do the trick!
Sometimes simply having time to think through your emotional reaction and the reasoning behind it can help you deal with and discuss your concerns in a more professional manner . . . and everyone will appreciate you for having been able to do so!