Rejection is one of the hardest things we face as humans. Our nature is to want to feel accepted; and even beyond that to feel appreciated, valuable, and respected. When those needs and desires aren't meant, we are left with a choice. How do we respond to rejection?
This week's posts are in the words of other working actors. Glean what you can from their perspectives and try each philosophy until you find one that works well for you. As unique as you are, your needs are unique as well. What works well for another talent may not work well for you . . . but you'll only find what does work for you by practicing suggested philosophies until you find that what you are practicing is more comfortable than your current response.
How do you respond to rejection?
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This is one of the most popular questions I get asked from actor and nonactor friends alike, and I always answer the same way: by having self-confidence and believing in myself. I know that I will not be right for every role I go out on, and I understand that. I also understand that a career as an actor is a journey, and a solid career takes years to build. Every audition I go on, I learn something and have benefited, regardless [of whether] I book the job or not.
For example, I had a callback for a guest-starring role on a one-hour drama on a major network. The meeting went great, and after receiving a great compliment from the director, I thought I had the role. Well, little did I know the show was canceled a short time later and that episode was never shot. Was I disappointed? Of course. However, instead of focusing on the negative, I patted myself on the back for everything I accomplished: getting the audition in the first place, getting a callback, making a great new relationship with a very popular casting office, and having a very well-known director praise my work. It all is a matter of perspective and how you choose to view the world of auditioning. You can either view it in the negative, which will cause you to beat yourself up and lose faith in yourself, or you can view it in the positive, and as a result you will have a much happier journey as an actor and pick up a lot of self-confidence on the way.