When was the last time you blamed yourself for something? It’s easy to blame everything around us for what we don’t have and what happens to us, rather than taking responsibility for the things that happen to you. The bright side of taking the blame on yourself is that you have the power to change it. Mark Westbrook, acting coach, gives us some advice.
Most people that want to be actors, or want to be more successful actors, will never actually achieve their goal.
They will blame the industry, the directors who will only work with the same people, the lack of opportunities for <insert excuse here>; they will blame the lack of opportunities in <insert city/town/state/country here>; they will blame the lack of roles for their type; they will blame the fact they never got into the fancy school, they will blame the fact that the industry around them is elitist, closed, cliquey, and excludes people like them.
They will blame the talented, because they were given their gift innately and didn’t have to graft or work hard for it.
They will blame the lucky, because they were given THEIR opportunity by coincidence.
They will blame anything and everyone. [Being] this kind of person [makes] you your own worst enemy.
They blame everyone but will fail to come to the conclusion that the only person to blame if you don’t have the career that you want is YOU.
I’m sorry, it’s not a nice realization. But you’re in luck this time. Because if you can give up blame and take action, be unafraid of graft, give up on instant gratification, and focus your attention on the goal and the steps required to get there, you will have ONLY ONE PERSON to [thank] for YOUR SUCCESS. You!
Next time something happens and you go to blame someone or something else for it, stop and think about Mark’s advice. When you reach your success, it will be all the more satisfying to know that you did it purely based on taking responsibility for yourself and your career. Who are you blaming?