Artists are typically drawn to others with similar creative energies. More often than not, this is a good thing because it provides a means of support and understanding. However, artists are sensitive souls and it may be difficult to keep jealousy at bay when you discover your friend lands that big break. Life coach and entertainment business strategist Dallas Travers offers three ways (covered over the next few posts) to keep your emotions in a healthy place and your friendships strong.
1. Set Boundaries
I heard a story once about the famous acting couple, Jessica Tandy and Hume Cronyn, and how they survived living in a tiny New York apartment. Their secret was hats. They each had a hat they would wear when they needed some space or time alone.
The other person knew exactly what that hat meant and, if they saw their partner wearing it, they would not bother them until the hat was off. It was their own little secret language to get things done or just take a break from each other because their physical space didn’t allow for escape to another room. Genius.
Jessica herself once said, “It’s hard sometimes…but we always manage to give ourselves space. We don’t live in each others pockets. We don’t take the play home with us. We do make suggestions to each other, and if we don’t agree we respect each other’s views.”
So, what are your boundaries? Do you want avoid talking shop when you’re out socially? Or maybe you want to set rules around complaining. Perhaps for you, boundaries look like setting office hours for your acting so your life feels more balanced.
Whatever they are, get clear about your boundaries for yourself and then share those expectations with the other actors in your life. And while you’re at it, remember to treat your friend with the same respect you do in a strictly professional relationship. They will thank you.Take the time to celebrate the success of others and it won't be long before others are celebrating yours! How do you set boundaries to find comfort with your acting friends?