Having a child in entertainment can be thrilling and daunting -- sometimes all at once! How can you be a supportive parent by instilling a good work ethic in your child without becoming the dreaded monster-like "stage-parent"? Hara Estroff Marano shares her time tested suggestions in June's issue of Psychology Today.
How to aid interest in performance while nurturing healthy development.
Gain perspective. Regard performance as an extracurricular, not an investment.
Put family needs first. When psychologists Vivian Diller's son was offered a TV role that required a move, Dliler turned it down to avoid disrupting the family.
Accept rejection. Never blame a child for something she did or didn't do when it comes to not getting a role.
Measure pride. If your self-esteem rises and falls by the success or failure of your child, take a step back.
Spotlight siblings, who may feel left out and resentful of time you spend with your performing child. Find ways to pay special attention to each of your children.
Select a manager who pays more attention to what your child needs than to waht your desires are.
Hang on to your values. Resist pressure to accept roles that you're uncomfortable with. If your child takes one involoving exposure to troubling characters, help him distinguish between reality and fantasy.
Validate your child's internal characterstics, such as kindness and generosity, to counter industry emphasis on weight and looks.
Assess, assess, assess. A child who likes auditioning at 10 may hate it at 15. Be prepared to stop the process when it ceases being fun for your kid -- even if you've moved to aid her career.
Prepare for the end. Make sure other sources of self-esteem are in place for both you and your child when the rewards of the limelight diminish.
Become the parent that will help your child successfully navigate the world and develop a love for what could be a life long hobby (or possibly career). What is the most challenging experience you and your child successfully overcame?